He barely talks about communication, and instead lays heavy on how to act coy yet confident. He formats men into puzzles that women are too distracted or nervous or blind to figure out.Ī lot of his advice circles around what it takes to get a man, but none of his content addresses what it means to actually sustain a relationship. Matthew Hussey's videos are presented in a way that makes dating into some sort of game. How to Get Back With Your Ex! How to Make Him Melt! How to Stop Attracting the Wong Guys! Get His Attention at a Party! What He REALLY Means When He Says Yada yada yada. Looking into his YouTube profile, his videos seem like, for lack of a better term, clickbait. But I still had this uneasy feeling about him, and all of it stemmed from that first video I had seen. Sure, he had some gimmicky advice products and seemed to cater to women who were down on themselves, but he is a life coach, after all. While I couldn't find the exact price of the retreat on Hussey's website, an English writer for The Telegraph said her retreat ticket costed over £3,000 ($3845).įinally, I had to look into our third Hussey, the first one I encountered.Īt this point, Hussey didn't seem so bad. It's an investment in themselves, after all.
These things don't sound terrible! They seem like sound advice to give someone who wants guidance badly enough to spend a large amount of money. The following days revolve around understanding your goals, other people's motives, and eventually learning to let go of your own insecurities and pushing yourself to take risks in your day to day life. There are tasks before the retreat that are asked of you, such as keeping diaries regarding your activities, emotions, and discoveries. Even if someone leaves, your life continues unscathed.All-in-all, the retreat appears. You become a better dater when you have a truly fulfilling life that is not dependent on someone else. You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.Īlso, you have to be willing to let go.
Connection just feels good, but so do drugs. It’s important to connect with the person you end up with, but it’s not a reason to invest in someone. It’s coming from the idea that he can hit up so many people, so he won’t be interested in me. That isn’t a new thing, but is it worse now? He’s invited me over at the last minute, and I really want more, but I do really like him, so maybe if I get close enough with him, maybe he will realize he does want me for more.” That is extremely dangerous. They think, “If I don’t sleep with someone quickly, someone else will.
I deal with women every day who are literally chasing men who aren’t taking them seriously or investing in them. They think they have to hold on to it and chase it. Just the possibility gives them a sense of entitlement.īecause so many men act like this - they don’t go on dates and are flaky - someone comes along that they have a connection with, they massively overvalue that connection. Maybe they don’t get a response, but that doesn’t matter. Especially people who have not had a lot of attention their entire lives, they can all of a sudden hit on every attractive person they see online. It’s not like everyone became a stud overnight, but most men feel like they are.